One of the challenges of my job is my commute. Some people deal with freeway traffic or crowded subways. My challenge is Mother Nature.
It’s about an hour drive from my office in Enterprise to the field where I meet with my clients. In the summer the ride is breathtaking. In the winter it can be brutal.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve been stuck in the mud or snow – even driving a 4×4 vehicle. It’s frustrating and frequently embarrassing. I think I know the terrain, know the vehicle, and know my driving abilities. But there I am, literally spinning my wheels while I’m trying to reach my students. Sometimes I have no choice but to swallow my pride and call the back-up driver for help.
I often use this as an analogy with my students. They too get “stuck in the mud.” Usually, it’s their choices and not their circumstances that are responsible for the stall.
Even so, these students tell everyone around them that they are OK, that they know what they are doing, and that they can get themselves out. They are surrounded by parents, therapists, and others who are ready to give them guidance. Students shoot down all of their ideas.
We have to be able to realize that it is OK to ask for help, that some times we can’t see the entire picture and that we might need someone else’s point of view. Until we recognize that we will remain stuck in the mud when help is literally right around the corner. by Kena Frey, LCSW, RedCliff Ascent Therapist